Exploring notions of touch, consent, and pleasure

Recently I’ve been learning in more intricate details about the ins and outs of consent.

Beyond the If-it’s-not-a-hell-yes-it’s-a-no in regards to sexual contact, there’s a whole array of body touch exploration to be had. …


An oldie but a goodie sex-play position

Sexual fads are fascinating. And by fads I mean what I tend to notice trending in porn or sex stuff I read about. Who knows if they’re actual fads or not.

Regarding porn, over the last few years I’ve noticed a shift from…


Pleasure shouldn’t depend on your size or shape.

Sex, when you’re in a bigger body, can be tricky.

When you’re carrying excess weight, more of your body gets in the way of having a good time. It’s often harder to maneuver too. And let’s not forget about getting squashed or not being able to breathe. Hardly fun.

I’ve…


No? Yes? It depends? It’s complicated.

Sex, when you’re not in the mood, can turn out surprisingly good or predictably bad. But should you agree to sex even when it’s not on your mind? And what are some reasons for and against this sex when you don’t feel like it?


Fantasies? My partner? My body?

When I was in my 20s I used to use sex toys a lot during solo play. Single and living alone, I’d spend hours masturbating and exploring my pleasure.

Sex toys evolved from whatever I had in my house, to actual sex toys I managed to purchase pre-online shopping (with…


An overloaded head makes for a disengaged vagina

Over-thinking. Most of us do it, some more than others.

I would argue for women, it’s a permanent fixture of our brains. …


I admit it, I’m scared.

I’m 45 and about to get married for the first time.

What is it like to be married? To commit to someone for so long?

I have a child from an ex (fiance) and a finance prior to that. …


Thanks, porn-world for making my brain even have to consider this topic

Drool. Spit. Saliva. Slag.

Urgh, just writing those words makes me feel squirmish. And yet, in the right context, it’s hot.

Welcome to the land of human sexuality with its many fine lines between erotic and gross. One person’s turn-on is another person’s turn-off. …


I’m OK and not OK

Well, here it is: my first mother’s day since mum died. I’m lost for words and yet I feel like I have lots to say.

Strange.

I had a few friends ask me the day before Mother’s Day how I was feeling about it. I…


I blame mobile phones and the Internet

Waiting at a cafe the other morning for takeaway coffees I did something I rarely see or rarely do: I stood there without my mobile phone and just waited.

I used the waiting time to drool over the cake display, look at the…

Melanie Robson

Australian writer, sexologist, & therapist. I sometimes write about sex & pleasure. I sometimes write about weird shit, my interests & being human.

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